Archive for October, 2008

Well, did you…?

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LorraineP
on October 26, 2008
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Good Morning, Beloved Conscious Parent,

Just checking in to see what you did yesterday for you. I mean YOU. Did you curl up with a book? Did you take a nap? Did you take a soak in the tub?

Well you have today, too, to restore yourself, so start thinkin’ and plannin’ now. Say that at 5PM you’ll take a bath. Or at 6PM you’ll go for a leisurely stroll through the neighborhood.

I talked to a couple yesterday, who seemed slightly concerned that taking time for themselves was not the best thing to do considering all the needs their kids have. Nope. Not selfish. Not indulgent. Not neglectful.

Think for a moment about what will happen to your beloved child(ren) if you get sick or croak. I mean, we all have to go, but I’m not in a hurry- I assume you’re not, either!

A colleague of mine’s tag line is, “Ignore your health, and it WILL go away.” Profound.

Rest is supreme for restoring our health and lowering cortisol levels that make us crazy busy.

“Stop the world!” says don Juan in Carlos Castaneda’s ‘Journey to Ixtlan.’ How can you stop the world? I work at this every single day. It’s insane what we think we need to do in the 21st century! Stopping the world is fast becoming a favorite hobby of mine.

I love you. I applaud you. You are a conscious parent doing everything in your power to do the right parent thing. And a big part of that is taking time for you.

Love 4Ever, Lorraine
The Conscious Parent Mentor

Whatcha Gonna Do For YOU This Weekend?

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LorraineP
on October 25, 2008
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Good Morning!!!

How’s it all going in your household this weekend? Hope you carve out time for you ALONE and time to play with your kids.

On the subject of time alone, what do you love to do that refreshes and renews you? That’s what I mean about time alone. My favorite thing to do at the moment is to curl up with Carlos Castaneda and follow him and don Juan through their desert adventures- I’m on Carlos’ 3rd book, and his writing and the content just takes me away.

And that’s what I’m talkin’ about; what can you do that will ‘take you away’ each and every day, not only this weekend?

Stop and really think about it. Another thing that really takes me away is a nap. How about you? Do you ever feel like just getting prone under a blanket?

I love your kids. Really I do. But aside from dire and dangerous circumstances, YOU’RE the one I’m pullin’ for a lot of the time. You’re the one so tired. You’re the one doing too much. You’re the one who needs TLC a lot of the time.

So, the Parent Mentor’s checkin’ in and suggesting that you REALLY restore yourself a couple of times this weekend, for at least an hour each. No excuses.

Love Always and Yours In Parenting Ease,

Lorraine Pursell, MA, BCET
www.LorrainePursell.com
lorraine@lorrainepursell.com: “evolving parent” in the subject

I Love You Enough To…

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LorraineP
on October 20, 2008
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Good Morning, My Dear,

This came to me this AM upon awaking to the thousands of birds in the jungle outside my window. “I love you enough to…”

This can be your mantra as you progress through each day with your child. “I love you enough to… Do the Right Parent Thing.”

This means, I love you enough to put my convenience behind your needs.

I love you enough to be vigilant in my parenting job today.

I love you enough to put you first, and that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll get your way.

I love you enough to think before I do- am I empowering you or handicapping you?

I love you enough to spend the time that you need in your school work.

I love you more than my own convenience.

I love you enough to “Do the Right Parent Thing” even if that means that you won’t like me. Your loving me or liking me is not my job. My job is preparing you the real world when you can leave home at 18.

I love you more than life. My commitment to you, before God, is to Do the Right Parent Thing, not cut corners on our short time together, evolve each day into the parent you deserve, repent to you daily, if needed, for mistakes I’ve made toward you, and show you that you mean the world to me.

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Welcome to my blog

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LorraineP
on October 19, 2008
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Welcome to my blog. I’m glad you’re checking it out. I’ll be writing often now because Parmalee Taff, owner of Santa Cruz Parent (www.santacruzparent.com) has asked me to blog for her, so I’ll post the same blog here. Cool!

How are you doing and how’s the family? I hope you take time for you this weekend.

I’m loving life on the Big Island of Hawai’i; our coffee farm overlooks 10 miles of coast. We live a simple life- water catchment and solar. Ken’s built the most charming cottage at 2000′ elevation. Nothing is between us and Muana Loa volcano except cows who visit often with their babies. I traded my Miata for a Jeep with serious mud tires.

It’s lovely here. Lots of heart and sweetness and mellowness- and it’s always warm.

Enough about me. I’d like to chat with you about Halloween, that great little event that starts the holiday season. The clocks get set back, it’s suddenly darker, and soon your kids are trick or treating. It’s a lot of fun.

What about those costumes. What’s appropriate? Please no Freddie Kruger stuff. I get scared when kids want to be bloody at Halloween or want to mimic horror flickstars. What are they doing watching these flicks anyway? I think that these films aren’t appropriate for kids OR adults.

The counselor in me is coming out now, but what message is your child getting loud and clear, and sub-consciously, as they watch and pretend they’re these characters?

For a young mind, tracks are laying down for horror and violence desensitization. I’ve known kids who like this genre at a young age, but I don’t suggest supporting their desire. Refrain from encouraging this tendency; I think your beloved child will be much better off for it.

Focus on the happy aspects of Halloween- the fun, the fall leaves, the cool pumpkins. Brainstorm with them about costume alternatives if they like this gory stuff. Go toward the wholesome. This is your baby. Bring out the angel.

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Lorraine

Lorraine’s a parent mentor and educational therapist. She’s worked closely with families and educators since 1995. Be empowered in your Greatest Job On Earth- get your free Evolving Parent ezine at www.LorrainePursell.com now.